Well, hello there my fellow readers. It's been a while, isn't it? Let's do a quick update here. "Never judge a book by its cover." It is very important for you guys to actually get to know someone at a deeper level. Not just superficial level and next thing, yall wanting to get married and settle down. My dear, in this world.. Never ever ever ever rush into that. Yall has a bigger goal aside from that. I mean getting married and settling down with having a new family etc is one of the goals that we have in mind. Obviously, I can't deny that. But is it really worth it for yall to settle down knowing you have no say in anything in the future or you becoming the guy in the relationship, while the guy is behaving like a girl? When I said that, I meant that the girl has to be the man for the family eg pay more for the house, plan for this and that, initiate the convo and update things always, etc. I mean we all want to settle down with someone who can look after one another, share problems with one another, have proper communication, plan for anything together, and importantly have our backs even when our own family turns their back on us. We are all in a relationship where we want our partner to tackle the problems together, not make us feel alone. If you girls are in a relationship, yet yall feel like yall are single... I may want yall to think again if this relationship is worth it. Honestly to me, it's not worth it. In a relationship... It is always about how you and your partner tackle the problem, and not about you guys fighting over a problem. It's 2 VS 1. Not 1 VS 1. One more thing, before settling down or engaged even, please please please do a background check on them. Get to know them properly before signing up to be with them for the rest of your life. You may not want to regret your life decision for not being able to know their finances, family, and education properly. It doesn't matter how high qualifications they possess or what occupation, it's more of whether or not are they lying just to make sure their ego is still there. Finances are very important, like if you don't have the money to buy a house... You may want to hold on to that thinking of settling down. I don't mean you can't get married to them. You can for sure but hold on first... Work on the finances first, then once stable you can do so. You wouldn't want to get married and then you and your partner will face financial burden. If yall don't have the planning together and communication, it's equally like yall are being forced to get married. How are yall even wanna settle down and be living under the same roof when you don't know anything about your partner.
Will there be love after all this that is happening in your relationship?
Think wisely, my dear girls.
Hold up, I probably may sound biased. But guys too, just reversed the story ya. I mean you guys wouldn't want to settle down with a girl who only wants to settle down, but not doing anything about their finances. Please that too, you guys have to think again. I mean yes, guys are like the head of the family like that, but not everything you have to fork out... I mean unless you guys want to be the man and pay off everything on your own. Then by all means.
I just want yall to be happy and not regret with any of your decisions made.
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